Healthy Campus Initiatives: Healthy Mind
Relationships, whether romantic or otherwise, are not always easy. College is a time to get to know people you might not have otherwise talked to in high school. Relationships are dynamic; they grow, change and sometimes end.
Healthy Relationships | Unhealthy Relationships
So what are some characteristics of a healthy relationship?
• Respect. Do you have different opinions on some topics? Can your friend or partner disagree with you, but respect your opinion?
• Trust. Do you trust your partner to keep your confidence?
• Acceptance. This means understanding that your friend or partner might never change that annoying habit. And neither will you.
• Closeness and apartness. Are you comfortable enough with yourself to be alone? Are you comfortable enough with yourself to share yourself with someone else?
• Communication. Do you feel like you can talk so your partner will listen? Do you know what it is to be a good listener? Use I-statements rather than you-statements. I-statements allow for the speaker to take ownership of his/her feelings and not place blame on the other person. For example, try "I feel as though I'm not being heard" vs. "You never listen to me."
Relationships are supposed to bring out the best in each person involved. If you feel like you are in an unhealthy relationship, seek help from the Counseling and Psychological Services Center (856-256-4222) or Public Safety (856-256-4911-emergency) if you feel unsafe.
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Sometimes relationships turn unhealthy or even dangerous. How do you know if you’re in an unhealthy relationship?
• You feel pressure to do things you do not want to do (dangerous activities, unsafe sex, etc.).
• You feel controlled by your partner (S/he wants to know where you are, who you’re with, limit time with other people).
• You feel like you have to change who you are to be with this person.
• You feel isolated from other friends and family.
• Something just doesn’t seem right. Trust your instincts; they’re usually right.
Sometimes romantic relationships especially can turn abusive. This change in the relationship is never the fault of the victim. Check out the Power and Control Wheel for more understanding on relationship violence and abuse.
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If you think you may be in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, know that it’s not your fault and Rowan has resources to help.
Public Safety Emergency- 856-256-4911
Counseling & Psychological Services- 856-256-4222
Vice President for Student Life/Dean of Students- 856-256-4283