Counseling & Psychological Services
For Faculty & Staff
Savitz Hall — Top Floor
201 Mullica Hill Rd.
Glassboro, NJ 08028
8:30am — 4:30pm
Monday — Friday
4:30pm to 7:00pm Wednesday - by appointment only
Mondays and Wednesdays
Walk-In Appointments Available Daily 11am-4pm
After Hours Emergencies
Call Public Safety at
256-4911 and ask for Counselor on Call
We ask that you please contact the CPSC in advance to cancel appointments you are unable to attend, so that the appointment slot might be made available for another student.
Tips for Talking to a Friend Who May Be Struggling With an Eating Disorder
If you are worried about your friend’s eating behaviors or attitudes, it is important to express your concerns in a loving and supportive way. It is also necessary to discuss your worries early on, rather than waiting until your friend has endured many of the damaging physical and emotional effects of eating disorders. In a private and relaxed setting, talk to your friend in a calm and caring way about the specific things you have seen or felt that have caused you to worry.
What to Say—Step by Step
- Set a time to talk. Set aside a time for a private, respectful meeting with your friend to discuss your concerns openly and honestly in a caring, supportive way. Make sure you will be some place away from other distractions.
- Communicate your concerns. Share your memories of specific times when you felt concerned about your friend’s eating or exercise behaviors. Explain that you think these things may indicate that there could be a problem that needs professional attention.
- Ask your friend to explore these concerns with a counselor, doctor, nutritionist, or other health professional who is knowledgeable about eating issues. If you feel comfortable doing so, offer to help your friend make an appointment or accompany your friend on their first visit.
- Avoid conflicts or a battle of the wills with your friend. If your friend refuses to acknowledge that there is a problem, or any reason for you to be concerned, restate your feelings and the reasons for them and leave yourself open and available as a supportive listener.
- Avoid placing shame, blame, or guilt on your friend regarding their actions or attitudes. Do not use accusatory “you” statements like, “You just need to eat.” Or, “You are acting irresponsibly.” Instead, use “I” statements. For example: “I’m concerned about you because you refuse to eat breakfast or lunch.” Or, “It makes me afraid to hear you vomiting.”
- Avoid giving simple solutions. For example, “If you’d just stop, then everything
would be fine!”
- Express your continued support. Remind your friend that you care and want your friend to be healthy and happy.
*All above information was obtained from National Eating Disorders Association's website at http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org